Many autistic people struggle to know what they can ask for when offered help. For this reason we often suggest the use of an accommodations checklist. This is something that a school could provide to the autistic person or parent to offer different kinds of accommodations/adjustments. This resource covers some ideas of things you may consider putting onto such a checklist.
Collaborative parenting
Parenting an autistic child can come with unique challenges. This resource outlines some ways to think about parenting and interacting with an autistic child that could make parenting feel less like an ongoing battle, and more like a collaborative activity.